Consent And Negotiation

In this casual shibari-inspired discussion session, Ms. Reemah, Anansi and Lavender explore the ins, outs and absolute essentials of consent and negotiation.

Consent is the power of your ‘yes’ or your ‘no’, explains Ms. Reemah. Negotiation in ropes, on the other hand, goes into the nuances of ‘what’, ‘how’ and ‘when’. Both consent and negotiation are essential elements of every rope scene – whether you’re tying with someone new, learning at a shibari workshop or playing with a long-established tying partner.

In the course of this conversation, three experienced rope practitioners and occasional tying partners share an engaging discussion filled with both funny anecdotes and profound insights into what consent and negotiation may look and sound like in a real-life rope practice. From the early stages of vetting potential new rope partners to the concept of ‘continuous negotiation’ during tying to how we wrap up our play with aftercare, this deep dive into consent and negotiation is all about fostering safer, more responsible and more rewarding play in ropes.

This discussion is suitable – and encouraged – for all levels.

* Captions available for this series: English